Custody

Mediation is a process where both parents work with a trained mediator. The mediator is supposed to be neutral, meaning they do not take sides. Without giving legal advice, they help the parents try to agree on things like child custody and visits. The mediator can help you talk about your needs and choices. If asked, the mediator can also write down what you have agreed to.¹

In certain circumstances, you may not have to go through mediation. Let the judge know if:

• you or your child were abused as defined by the law; or
• there is coercive control in your relationship.²

If the judge believes mediation is not appropriate because of the abuse or coercive control, the judge may not order you to do it.²

Note: “Coercive control” means that the abuser uses a pattern of emotional or psychological manipulation, maltreatment, threats of force, or intimidation. They try to scare or control you to make you do – or not do – things against your will.³ You can learn more about coercive control in our section on Emotional and Psychological Abuse.

¹ Md. Rule §§ 9-205; 17-102(h)
² Md. Rule §§ 9-205(b)(2); 9-205(a)(2)(A)-(B); Md. Code, Fam. Law § 4-501(b)
³ Md. Rule § 9-205(a)(2)(B)