What is abusive use of conflict?
Abusive use of conflict is when a parent acts in a deliberate and continuing way to cause harm by “misusing conflict.” This can include:
- multiple violations of court orders about the child, or about protection of you or the child, in “bad faith”;
- threats of physical, emotional, or financial harm to you or other family, friends, or professionals supporting you or the child;
- intentionally using the child in a conflict; or
- abusive litigation.1
Taking protective actions is not considered abusive use of conflict. If a parent engages in abusive use of conflict, it may affect their ability to get decision-making power or residential parenting time.
1 R.C.W. § 26.09.191(3)(a)




